My ex wife would freeze if she saw a spider. When she was a wee kid, a so called friend grabbed her hand and made her splat a spider with it. Since then shes had a real problem with spiders, but gradually she got much better because of our little children at the time. She didnt want them to have a phobia of them, just because she did. In the end she would catch them in a glass cup and show them to the kids, before releasing them outside over the fence in neighbours garden 😂.
Once the kids saw this and went back to playing , she would hide in bathroom and have a little melt down at what shes just done, before pulling it around. Today, she still hates spiders but no where near the extent she once did.
Me, if i find a monster spider when cleaning the windows, i would drop another smaller spider onto the web and watch with fascination the result