£200.00 is spot on, but I have misgivings about donating cash for when someone dies; it seems a little bit 'cheap'
Hopefully, Paul would have been covered with life insurance, so she shouldn't need the money.
£200 is a lot of flowers though! I honestly thought that we'd get in around £80.00.
How about you send her a bunch of flowers and a cheque and in your - no doubt well-worded letter of condolence - you explain your misgivings about sending money, and if it is not wanted, then she donate it to Paul's favourate charity!?