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RPCCS

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Re: Carrying on after breakup
« Reply #40 on: November 28, 2019, 07:24:32 pm »
I haven't been there so no idea what its lile personally, but friends have been through it.
A few different and conflicting pieces of advice there, my advice is indulge in things you enjoy, keep up with your business and aa for drink, as someone else said drive to the pub, have 1 beer then on to soft drinks. The last thing you need is lots of alcohol, it may seem like your best friend, but its not. It just makes you more depressed, and the last thing you need is a drink drive court case on your hands.
Cheers Rich

NWH

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Re: Carrying on after breakup
« Reply #41 on: November 28, 2019, 08:24:54 pm »
All this talk about being driven to drink by a woman,if she heard you were down the pub drowning your sorrows she’d probably laugh about it. If someone doesn’t want to be with you if you go out if you’re way to get her back it would be out of pity or persuasion why she would return and who wants to live there life like that,all these sayings plenty more fish and all that when you get a bit older you realise how wise some of these old boys were when you were younger telling you that lol.

james peters

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Re: Carrying on after breakup
« Reply #42 on: November 28, 2019, 08:50:40 pm »
I have been through it . my ex wife left , and we had 3 children together . at the time my oldest daughter was heavily pregnant with our first grandchild.
I had my 2 youngest children most of the time , and even though I was dying inside , I had to carry on and be strong.
my advice is this
1..... keep busy, and set small goals.    take each day as it comes … YOU WILL  look back and realise you are healing, all beit gradually.

2..... learn to be on your own, as hard as it is , this will benefit you when you do meet someone else . you will become a better , stronger person.

6 years on for me … met my partner 2 and a half years ago... getting married next year.
I can not express how far I have come, what iv learnt about life and myself... and also how content and happy I am

good luck with the healing , and remember …. LITTLE STEPS

Slacky

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Re: Carrying on after breakup
« Reply #43 on: November 28, 2019, 09:09:27 pm »
and remember …. LITTLE STEPS

This is so spiritual. What excellent advice.


james peters

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Re: Carrying on after breakup
« Reply #44 on: November 29, 2019, 09:29:55 pm »
and remember …. LITTLE STEPS

This is so spiritual. What excellent advice.

had plenty 0f time to think
I was to blame in many ways also.